Quitting is Not a 4-Letter Word
Perhaps the scenario is familiar. After months of agony, weighing your options, and trying but unable to shake off that stubborn feeling that you need to be elsewhere, you decide you’ve had enough of that job, relationship, or shitty situation.
You’re done, over it, finished, finito. You quit.
But while you may be experiencing that beautiful hangover of emotional release, the response of others may indicate something quite different.
That you’ve been beaten, given up, failed.
For too many, quitting is a four-letter word.
The mark of someone defective, lazy, inept, or flaky, someone unwilling to push through hard times or lacking the strength or stamina to do so.
But I offer another interpretation.
Maybe quitting is exactly the right thing to do.
Maybe quitting is the mark of someone who hasn’t given up, who’s unwilling to give up.
Hear me out on this. I’m not talking about quitting because you get a little bored or because it’s become a bit too much work. Because you’re unwilling to make the necessary sacrifice to get what you want.
I’m talking about quitting things that don’t serve you, that don’t align well with your values or needs, that don’t use your talents or challenge you at all. I’m talking about quitting jobs, people and places that breed passivity and diminish your self-worth.
You’ve been there, I’m sure – that place that pulls out the threads of your dark side and weaves them together until you are shrouded in stress, sadness, jealously, and revolt. That place that suffocates the best of you, no matter how hard you try to hold onto it.
We all make mistakes and sometimes where we end up – whether it is a relationship, job, house, city or otherwise – is a mistake. And we shouldn’t feel compelled to live with those mistakes if we can choose otherwise.
Life is a giant experiment. Sometimes those experiments work and sometimes they don’t.
The trick is to use those missteps to help guide you to a better place. The trick is to keep fighting for yourself.
But, of course, you can’t move on if you don’t quit something – a job that isn’t challenging you, a relationship that is diminishing you, a life path that isn’t right for you.
We can’t become someone different if we don’t shed some of our current skin first.
Nobody can tell you how to live your life. If you’re not satisfied with where you are right now, ask yourself “Am I where I want to be?”. If not, “What do I need to do to get there?
Change can be brutal, and part of the reason is that it involves leaving something or someone behind. In this case, quitting isn’t a mark of personal failing. It’s the mark of progress.
Remember that this is your one life. Don’t allow anyone else to dictate it. It’s your jewel, it’s your future, it’s your happiness, it’s your purpose.
Struggling with the decision to quit something? Ask yourself what you have to gain vs. lose. Put others’ opinions out of your head. Is this decision easier when you focus just on you? Reach out and let me know your thoughts!