Setting your #FeelGood Goals for 2018
For many of us, it’s a tradition. As one year rolls to a close, we sit down with a pad of paper and an eager hand, scribbling down our goals for the next year.
They often look something like this:
Drink more water!
Climb a mountain!
Read 20 books!
Get my degree!
Pet my cat more!!!
Well, maybe not that last one, but you get the drill. Think about your own for a moment. Perhaps they look similar, maybe a little different. But I bet that most share a common element.
Our New Year’s resolutions tend to be rather concrete. They are often about doing or achieving, rather than being.
Yeah, I know. I’m getting philosophical. Perhaps that’s my New Year’s goal….).
But seriously, we often are so busy reviewing the resume of our life that we don’t stop to consider another perspective – how we feel and our daily experience of life.
One thing I’ve learned is that outward achievements mean much less than inner fulfillment. If you feel good, are able to love unconditionally, maintain optimism, and live with purpose than you are far ahead of those who obtain accolade upon accolade and suffer miserably.
So how about we do something different this year. How about we go beyond just the concrete goals of finally learning to sew or get a handstand and focus on how we want to feel and interact with the world.
Because I know examples help to illustrate a point, I’ll get a little personal and share some of my goals.
This year, I want to work on opening my heart more to strangers.
I want to expand and broaden my connection to friends.
I want to be able to love more freely.
I hope to develop a better sense of resiliency in the face of stress.
I want to always find time to laugh.
I want to better accept my weaknesses and see more clearly how they can become strengths.
I want to continue to honor others’ experiences and perspectives beyond my own.
At the end of the year, I won’t have a list of accomplishments that I can easily check off. I also won’t have a list of activities that make me squirm because I didn’t come close. I mean, I can put down that I’ll learn to unicycle but….you know.
What I’ll have instead is a list of aspirations that I can continue to work on throughout my life, a list that never comes to a close, a list that reminds me that life is so much more than degrees or titles, bank accounts, praise, or prizes.
It’s about connection. It’s about love. It’s about self-acceptance. It’s about figuring out what makes you come alive, what fills you with purpose.
From there, I promise that you’ll find activities that enrich you, that help you grow, connect you to others, and make your life uniquely and joyously your own.
Ready to make your #FeelGood resolutions? Reach out and let me know how it goes!